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What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

28 Apr Posted by in Blog | Comments Off on What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger
What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

Many of you know by now that we are helping my brother out.  He is in a rehabilitation facility near us as he overcomes his drug abuse.  Two days before Pie Palooza, things were not good at all.  Everyone tried to offer help, but he was just not in the right place.  Two days after Pie Palooza, I couldn’t stop thinking about him and sent him a text just wondering how he was doing.  He called me right away and finally admitted that he needed serious help.  This was the first time that I’d read that much sincerity in his plea so we got the ball rolling immediately.  My grandparents and husband drove down to Vegas to pick him, his car, and his belongings up.  They arrived very late on Thursday night.  We admitted him into a facility on Friday afternoon and he has been working on his recovery there ever since. We try to see him every week.  He is working hard and we are very grateful that he’s working so well on his recovery.  We know this is only the beginning of a very long journey but I wish to thank each and every one of you who have shown such incredible support.  It has been a huge blessing in our time of need.  Here is a link to his story and for the donation page we set up:

Other than that, life has just been plain busy.  We went to Laura’s (my cousin’s) wedding at the beginning of the month in Denver.  I spent 80+ hours working on her wedding cakes.  They were SO much fun!  I absolutely loved doing them.  It was so fun to see her get hitched to Zac.  The week after we got back, we had Pie Palooza.  It was our sixth annual palooza and we had lots of people come by – over 215!  It was so fun to have the event in our new house!  (See below also for our precious Easter pics.)

We have had a few doozies with our daughters at school.  We have had to handle a lot of extra business relating to them and school and what’s been going on, but the Temple has provided a lot of comfort in these trials.  Graham is also in the process of being weaned off of his antibiotics.  That, in and of itself, is stressful, but I am currently feeling that he is going to be okay as we do so.  We dropped one of his doses every day about a week and a half ago.  This Sunday, we will be dropping another dose every other day and then we will drop it all together two weeks after that.  We’ll know about a week or two after that if his immune system sustained itself.  Thank you again for all of your prayers.

Cal and G-man are growing like crazy.  They are both getting close to 20 pounds each.  Graham army crawls and Cal can now crawl on hands and knees (although they both army crawled only for a while; it was hilarious to watch).  Both boys can get anywhere on the main level of the house and have taught me how much more I need to sweep and mop as they will put anything they find in their mouths.  Graham has started babbling and although we lowered both boys’ cribs a level last week, Cal has already proven that his needs to be lowered all of the way as he can still stand up using the edge of the crib.  Graham manifested his first tooth yesterday!  (Bottom left front.)

Lincoln is continuously happy.  He has discovered a whiney streak (as most three-year-olds do) but we are working with him.  He is talking more and more and can empty almost the whole dishwasher by himself.  He still loves vehicles and planes of any kind and would rather stay in his pajamas all day.  (Wonder where he got that notion?) It sure is nice that he is completely able to use the bathroom now; we got rid of diapers for him several months ago.

Elli is the “mini-Mommy” in the house.  She has quite a bit of sass, but just as much sweetness.  She will be attending Kindergarten again next year at the school we just moved into the district for.  (She has been at the BYU Kindergarten this year but she was extremely young for the grade and we feel another year would give a leg up so she can do immersion in first grade.)  She is excited to be home for the summer for a little while.

Anjali is working hard at school.  French has become a bit more difficult for her, but we are working on it with her.  She and Elli both started Spring Season Soccer.  Elli scored two goals in one game a few weeks ago and is working harder than ever.  I have to toot Anjali’s horn here for a moment.  She has become obsessed with playing goalie.  She absolutely loves it and often tries to avoid the other positions because she likes it so much.  I told her she needed to try to play some other positions, too, and although the coach is working with her on it, he came up to me a few games ago and said that we should really look into a future for Anjali as a goalie.  He said she is exceptionally good at it, that most girls kind of shy away from the ball, but that nothing gets past her.  She knows where to look, how to keep her eye on the ball, and knows automatically when to kick it or catch it.  I have even gotten comments from a lot of other parents at every game.  “Whose kid is that?  She is a really good goalie!”  I am so proud to say that she’s mine.  :)

Dovy is busy building projects, consulting, and working hard.  I am still doing small cake orders here and there but have been focusing more on the home and the kids as of late.  I also need to get reconstructive nose surgery (again).  I had it as a kid when my nose was broken pretty badly.  They said they corrected my deviated septum, as well.  However, I went into an ENT this last week.  He said it doesn’t look my septum was much corrected at all.  He also said that if I had had the last surgery as a teenager that there’s not a lot you can do with a septum at that age, unless minimally, because your septum has a memory and you usually need to wait until you’re older to do something about it.  Well, I’m older and here I am.  Time to do something.  You should see my CT scan.  (Actually, you can.  See in the pics below, towards the end.)  Anyway, I’m basically 100% blocked on one side and can’t breathe through it much at all.  My other side collapses every time I breathe in deeply.  They will need to expand my nose a little bit at the bridge, shave off some other places, file down the turbinates, and possibly pull cartilage from behind my ear in order to fix things.  I’m trying to decide when to do the surgery, but it’s not like I haven’t had a similar surgery before and can’t handle it.  Glad I know generally what to expect.  Not looking forward to recovery, though.

I’m getting ready to go to Girls’ Camp, too.  I’m in charge of gathering all of the supplies.  Oi.  That should be fun.  Getting ready to turn 30 soon and that feels like a smack in the face.  I cannot believe that I’m just about finished being in my 20’s.  So much has happened in the last decade!

It has probably been the longest and hardest month of our whole marriage.  In fact, the last year has been one thing after another, from one fire to the next.  It is exhausting, but we are holding on, and tightly, I might add.  What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right?